Talking About Sex and Puberty   

Depending on the age of your Little, the topics of sex and puberty may come up during outings with their Big.  We require that Bigs and guardians proactively speak about this topic; what the Little knows, the teaching that is happening at home, and preferences for how to handle this topic when and if it comes up.  Seek support from your Match Support Coordinator if navigating these topics.

Sex topics would be considered a safety matter to flag for guardian and Match Support.  Contact your Match Support Coordinator to discuss how to broach these topics or navigate sharing safety information.

Find out more information about secrets and confidences here.

Navigating Body Changes for Littles 

Many Littles transition into puberty during their match.  Bigs can provide extra support in a variety of ways – including being someone to talk to about body changes, shop for or teach about hygiene products (deodorant, shaving items, or feminine hygiene products), and answer questions.  Bigs and guardians should be talking about what role Bigs should play in these conversations.  It’s very important that Bigs and guardians are comfortable with the content and level of engagement on these topics.  Additionally, it’s most important that the Little is comfortable with the role to which the Big plays.  Using Little’s cues and reactions when bringing up these topics is key.

To get more clarity on navigating this role and content, speak with your Match Support Coordinator.

Alcohol and/or Drug Use for Littles  

The topic of alcohol and drug use has the potential to come up in many contexts with your Little.  It’s possible that a Little might share the use of a substance, peer pressure, or supporting a friend/family member who uses substances.  If possible, we recommend that Bigs and guardians proactively speak about this topic and the lessons being taught at home.  Coming from a place of support, care and non-judgement is key.  Utilizing open ended questions to clarify Little’s safety, drug use, and their plan for navigating these situations is a good place to start.

If challenging topics like this come up and you feel unprepared as a Big, it’s ok to not have all the answers.  If a Little is sharing sensitive information like this, it speaks to the CONNECTION and trust in their Big.  It’s ok to listen more and talk less.  If the Little is seeking advice, Bigs can acknowledge the seriousness of the topic and explain the need for time to think about the best advice.

Alcohol and/or drug use would be considered a safety matter to flag for guardian and Match Support.  Contact your Match Support Coordinator to discuss how to broach these topics or navigate sharing safety information.

Check out our safety guidelines to learn more!  
Check out this easy tool for guidance around engaging your Little in a supportive way.